The end of the year is coming up and sometimes I feel like I need to catch up, get everything done on my to do list before 2023 comes around! Like I didn't accomplish anything in 2022...
On the other hand, if I take a step back, I realize that I have accomplished a lot during the year and that it's okay if I'm not productive all the time. I do not need to wake up at 6am to go to the gym, to have the perfect house, to eat healthy every day or - add here something very difficult - to be considered an efficient, hardworking and dedicated person.
It's really good to have goals, resolutions and dreams. It's also good to work towards what we want to accomplish. But, it's necessary to understand that we can't control everything. Sometimes, difficult situations will arise and we won't have time to focus on our goals. Sometimes, we just don't have enough energy. That's normal. That's okay. It's also important to remind ourselves that our value as a person is not related to our job or our productivity.
I'd like to share some tips that help me when I feel like I'm not doing enough:
- I think about the people who love me. Why do they love me? Is it because I'm productive? Or is it because I'm kind, I'm a good friend, etc.?
- I do something I really enjoy but without the pressure of needing to be productive. For example: taking a walk, writing in my journal, taking a bath…
- I make a list (in my head or on paper) of everything I did during the week: I worked from 8am to 5pm every day, I went to the grocery store, I made dinner...it helps me see that I have a lot of responsibilities and that it's normal if sometimes I don't have time to do other things!
As women, we always feel like we have to be perfect! I wrote this wishing that we would be kinder to ourselves despite the society we live in that puts so much pressure on us to maintain a certain image and lifestyle.
Related to this topic, we also wrote something last year about New Year's resolutions, if you're interested: https://midnight-monsters-cosmetic.myshopify.com/blogs/sabbats-et-amour/mes-resolutions-2022
- Ana