The holiday season is starting, invitations are flying and your vacation is not so much of a vacation anymore?
Like every year, we return to our hometown. We spend time with our family and some family members that we don't see often and we realize that it doesn't necessarily means "fun time".
If you too receive unwanted comments about your body, about the way you manage your life, about whether you are in a relationship or not. If for you too, there is always a little something that makes your cup overflow and makes you want to go cry in the bathroom or make them swallow their comments by shoving a Christmas turkey in their mouth, this blog is for you.
First, it's important that you remember your worth, that their opinions are in no way a reflection of who you are and are most likely a projection of their own insecurities.
YOU ARE A QUEEN, NO MATTER WHAT THEY CAN THINK OR SAY!!!
"Yes, but it still makes me sad..."
It's normal honey! It's never pleasant, so here are some sentences that you can say to help this person realize their toxic behavior and/or get you out of this shitty conversation. For this example, our toxic member will be called Toxic Bitch, TB for short.
TB: “Wow! So you are really skinny. I can almost go all the way around your waist with both of my hands (grotesque laugh of course).”
- » I don't like it when you comment on my appearance. Please stop.
TB: “Wow! You spent all that time in the bathroom putting on makeup for this...”
-» I didn't wear makeup for you. I think I'm beautiful and your opinion is worthless. Next time, keep it to yourself.
TB: “You could have made an effort to dress.”
- » I feel good in these clothes. How I dress is my business and has absolutely no impact on your evening.
TB: “How many hours do you work? Just that. When I was your age, I worked [insert near impossible but oh so impressive number of hours].”
- » Good for you, if it suited you. It's not a competition. I'm happy with that number of hours.
The list could go on and on. The important thing is to remember that these comments have no value. That you have the right to be who you are and that you have the right to be respected.
Of course, you can mix all these sentences and create your own.
Remember that you never have to respond and have a conversation with these people. If you don't feel good, leave, go sit down with someone you trust, with whom you feel good and share how you feel with them. Make a little no bullshit team and have fun with them!
(Although, if you just don't want to go, you have every right to!)
Happy Holidays Queen
Sam xx